Two posts in one day. That's rare. But this one is one that needs to be written as a massive vent so that I can then move on to business writing.
"20 minutes of action..." That phrase is how Stanford swimmer Brock Allen Turner's dad described his son's rape of a woman. Seriously. Rape is seen as "20 minutes of action" in this douchebag's head. I'm livid. What is wrong with this world that this mentality exists and is out there.
I read the victim's letter on Buzzfeed over the weekend and have not been able to stop thinking about it since. So very brave of her to read this letter in court at his sentencing -- where he received just six months in prison for rape because a longer sentence would have a "severe impact on him". Fuck that noise.
Feeling the need here to add that I've thankfully never been raped. Have I been more drunk than I should have been when I was around guys? Sure. Have I been in situations I shouldn't have been in that could have gone hellaciously bad? Yes. Have I done things I wouldn't have if I wasn't drunk? Oh, yes. Was I raped? No.
There's one incident in particular in college that still sticks with me all these years later. But it wasn't rape. I never said "no" and I somehow (mainly due to my own insane naivety and lack of confidence) was a virgin throughout all of college, so no, it wasn't rape. Thinking back, if that guy was anything like Brock, that night could have been very, very bad and not just one heck of a "what was I thinking going off with that jerk?" regret but instead a life-changer. Thankfully, he wasn't -- not a great guy in the slightest, but not a rapist at all. I'll give him that.
But this story. It won't get out of my head. I'm just irate that this kid can receive only 6 months for a sentence and can change his story on the stand to saying she consented. How the bloody hell did she consent when she was unconscious? There is no way being dragged behind a dumpster and having pine needles inserted inside her by his fingers was something any woman would have consented to. Just no. The thought makes me ill.
So, so, so glad that those cyclists happened to be passing by and noticed she wasn't moving at all and pulled him off of her. I don't want to think about what would have happened -- and that Brock would have gotten away with this even further -- if they hadn't. Vomit worthy.
This woman can't sleep without the lights on due to the rape. Her entire world has been changed but Brock gets just 6 months because a longer sentence would have a severe impact on him. I can't. I just can't. The whole thing sickens me.
Tuesday, June 7, 2016
JoJo's Bachelorette Episode 3 - Yab Yum and Bloody Knuckles
And we're back again for a "very special" two-night event of The Bachelorette. Oh, dear. Shit's going down... Hmm, just remembered I'm out tonight for the beginning of the second part so time to set the DVR.
Chase's One-on-One Date
Okay, so they're going to a yoga class. Nothing unusual there. Ohh, "intimate" yoga? Well, there. I've sure been to the wrong types of yoga classes. An anger-gasm looks like fun.
Chase is hot, hot, hot. He still looks like Chris Bukowski (Mr. grown ass man) to me, but an even hotter version.
I have never heard the term "Yab Yum" before, but I'm getting behind the idea. This is basically some Sting'esque tantric sex going on here. Yup, will be investigating that concept a bit further. Plus, that was a great kiss.
"When I'm around JoJo, I feel excited..." Pretty sure that was the understatement of the century there, Chase. ;)
Ohhh, it's time for the special concert. I wrote down "Who the eff is Charles Kelly?" as I thought they had James Taylor the contestant playing for them for a moment. Hahaha Nope, instead, he's the male lead in Lady Antebellum. Turns out I've really only paid attention to the Lady part of the group apparently as I had no idea who this dude was.
Group Date Announcement
Wells. That fisherman's cardigan? You're killing it. Super hot.
Okay, so Chad is the Olivia this season, thinking he's the only one with a connection, right? LOL
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Group Date
Oh, I feel bad for these boys. They're speechless that they're at a sex talk show. "Sex Talks". I need to see if there are any of these that are local. NOT that I want to get up and talk because nooo. There's this blog and then there's getting up in front of people that could know me hearing my tales. Big difference. But attending one would be hysterical.
Laughed quite a bit too much at Grant (I think it was Grant) saying "I've never heard anything like that..." during the woman's fake orgasm. Oh, really, Grant? You haven't? I'm a wee bit doubtful about that.
What I got from this was that Wells was in a threesome (!!) and someone farted. HA!
Oh, Evan, Evan, Evan... Basically saying that Chad uses steroids. Ouch. Glad you didn't go on to talk about the cautionary tales of steroid dick. Yikes. That was brutal.
However, Chad's reaction to it of grabbing his shirt and basically ripping the back of it (though, I'm wondering what happened there because it looked like it was torn in half on Evan's back when it happened, but then later Evan was walking around and the shirt was fine. Different shirt?) and then punching a door? Good god. Nope. Sorry, Chad. You will be receiving none of my roses with actions like that, especially the door punching that led to your bloody knuckles. That's a behavior that's a red flag to pretty much anyone, or it should be. Not a fan at all.
Night Portion of Group Date
I'd totally forgotten about Jordan until his talk with JoJo. She's very interested and so is he from touching her leg and wrapping around each other. Dude, telling her you wake up happy because of her? Awww, good job and great line!
On the other hand, Chad, if you have to say "Generally, I'm a nice guy...", you're not. You're just not.
I was stunned by Evan's ultimatum that it was basically him or Chad AND that he then got the rose. Yowza. Chad's reaction saying "Is this real?", though? Total dick move. So glad JoJo called him on it and told him he was being disrespectful.
Back at the House
This swings around a bit because James Taylor's date was interspersed with clips of back at the house, but I'll break them up.
They have a security guard there. Seriously?? Umm, producers, the far better idea here would be to remove the person from the house that's the cause for the security guard. Sure, Chad is bringing great television, but holy loose cannon.
Oh, hey, Derek and Luke. I totally forgot about them as well and they were on my top picks list from last week. Sorry boys.
Snorted at Daniel comparing Chad to Hitler! That was the best moment, followed by Chad eating a sweet potato like an apple.
James Taylor
Okay, he's growing on me big time. The swing dancing and the outfits. All completely adorable. Loved it. I was basically going "Awww" through each of the segments of this date. Had flashbacks to my own ballroom dancing classes that I took, but left after I tried to lead the teacher, who was supposed to be leading me around the floor. Oopsie...
Jean Bellows the teacher was a sweetheart. Love this date!!
Also loved the flash mob swing dancing in the street. It was like "Newsies" broke out on the screen.
Hanging out in a convertible for the night portion of the date. Holy flashback to Grease and the 50s in general. James T just seems like an old-fashioned really nice guy. And holy shit, he's always considered himself an underdog in dating. Jeez, Louise. No wonder I think he's awesome. Dude, I can relate hugely. Big props to JoJo for telling him he is awesome and giving him the rose.
Was worried for a second when there was just a hug along with the rose instead of a kiss, but she did kiss him after he brought out the guitar. Phew.
JoJo, honey... "He makes me feel a way I'm not used to feeling." That feeling is called being cherished and respected. It's important. Follow that feeling.
Chris Harrison
No cocktail party. Instead, there's an all-day pool party pre-rose... And there's about 5 minutes left. No way is the rose ceremony happening on this episode.
Ay yi yi re: Evan and then Chad's convos with Chris Harrison. Seriously, Chris Harrison didn't know about any of the Chad stuff going on? Highly highly doubtful. Though, dude, what the fuck? You sent Chad back into the house to confront Evan and you think that's going to go okay? Good luck with that.
And there's the "To be continued..."
This Week's Favorites:
* James Taylor -- That's the kind of boy you bring home. Love him immensely.
* Chase - Hot, hot, hot, hot, hot.
* Wells -- Still freaking adorable.
Chase's One-on-One Date
Okay, so they're going to a yoga class. Nothing unusual there. Ohh, "intimate" yoga? Well, there. I've sure been to the wrong types of yoga classes. An anger-gasm looks like fun.
Chase is hot, hot, hot. He still looks like Chris Bukowski (Mr. grown ass man) to me, but an even hotter version.
I have never heard the term "Yab Yum" before, but I'm getting behind the idea. This is basically some Sting'esque tantric sex going on here. Yup, will be investigating that concept a bit further. Plus, that was a great kiss.
"When I'm around JoJo, I feel excited..." Pretty sure that was the understatement of the century there, Chase. ;)
Ohhh, it's time for the special concert. I wrote down "Who the eff is Charles Kelly?" as I thought they had James Taylor the contestant playing for them for a moment. Hahaha Nope, instead, he's the male lead in Lady Antebellum. Turns out I've really only paid attention to the Lady part of the group apparently as I had no idea who this dude was.
Group Date Announcement
Wells. That fisherman's cardigan? You're killing it. Super hot.
Okay, so Chad is the Olivia this season, thinking he's the only one with a connection, right? LOL
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Reddi-Whip and this tv show. Well, now we know what the fantasy suites are stocked with. Give me all those strawberries. Yum!
Helllooo, Legend of Tarzan. Thanks for the reminder about Skarsgard being in this, commercial.
Group Date
Oh, I feel bad for these boys. They're speechless that they're at a sex talk show. "Sex Talks". I need to see if there are any of these that are local. NOT that I want to get up and talk because nooo. There's this blog and then there's getting up in front of people that could know me hearing my tales. Big difference. But attending one would be hysterical.
Laughed quite a bit too much at Grant (I think it was Grant) saying "I've never heard anything like that..." during the woman's fake orgasm. Oh, really, Grant? You haven't? I'm a wee bit doubtful about that.
What I got from this was that Wells was in a threesome (!!) and someone farted. HA!
Oh, Evan, Evan, Evan... Basically saying that Chad uses steroids. Ouch. Glad you didn't go on to talk about the cautionary tales of steroid dick. Yikes. That was brutal.
However, Chad's reaction to it of grabbing his shirt and basically ripping the back of it (though, I'm wondering what happened there because it looked like it was torn in half on Evan's back when it happened, but then later Evan was walking around and the shirt was fine. Different shirt?) and then punching a door? Good god. Nope. Sorry, Chad. You will be receiving none of my roses with actions like that, especially the door punching that led to your bloody knuckles. That's a behavior that's a red flag to pretty much anyone, or it should be. Not a fan at all.
Night Portion of Group Date
I'd totally forgotten about Jordan until his talk with JoJo. She's very interested and so is he from touching her leg and wrapping around each other. Dude, telling her you wake up happy because of her? Awww, good job and great line!
On the other hand, Chad, if you have to say "Generally, I'm a nice guy...", you're not. You're just not.
I was stunned by Evan's ultimatum that it was basically him or Chad AND that he then got the rose. Yowza. Chad's reaction saying "Is this real?", though? Total dick move. So glad JoJo called him on it and told him he was being disrespectful.
Back at the House
This swings around a bit because James Taylor's date was interspersed with clips of back at the house, but I'll break them up.
They have a security guard there. Seriously?? Umm, producers, the far better idea here would be to remove the person from the house that's the cause for the security guard. Sure, Chad is bringing great television, but holy loose cannon.
Oh, hey, Derek and Luke. I totally forgot about them as well and they were on my top picks list from last week. Sorry boys.
Snorted at Daniel comparing Chad to Hitler! That was the best moment, followed by Chad eating a sweet potato like an apple.
James Taylor
Okay, he's growing on me big time. The swing dancing and the outfits. All completely adorable. Loved it. I was basically going "Awww" through each of the segments of this date. Had flashbacks to my own ballroom dancing classes that I took, but left after I tried to lead the teacher, who was supposed to be leading me around the floor. Oopsie...
Jean Bellows the teacher was a sweetheart. Love this date!!
Also loved the flash mob swing dancing in the street. It was like "Newsies" broke out on the screen.
Hanging out in a convertible for the night portion of the date. Holy flashback to Grease and the 50s in general. James T just seems like an old-fashioned really nice guy. And holy shit, he's always considered himself an underdog in dating. Jeez, Louise. No wonder I think he's awesome. Dude, I can relate hugely. Big props to JoJo for telling him he is awesome and giving him the rose.
Was worried for a second when there was just a hug along with the rose instead of a kiss, but she did kiss him after he brought out the guitar. Phew.
JoJo, honey... "He makes me feel a way I'm not used to feeling." That feeling is called being cherished and respected. It's important. Follow that feeling.
Chris Harrison
No cocktail party. Instead, there's an all-day pool party pre-rose... And there's about 5 minutes left. No way is the rose ceremony happening on this episode.
Ay yi yi re: Evan and then Chad's convos with Chris Harrison. Seriously, Chris Harrison didn't know about any of the Chad stuff going on? Highly highly doubtful. Though, dude, what the fuck? You sent Chad back into the house to confront Evan and you think that's going to go okay? Good luck with that.
And there's the "To be continued..."
This Week's Favorites:
* James Taylor -- That's the kind of boy you bring home. Love him immensely.
* Chase - Hot, hot, hot, hot, hot.
* Wells -- Still freaking adorable.
Tuesday, May 31, 2016
JoJo's Bachelorette Episode 2 aka Tune in Tokyo
I didn't do a post for the first season because it's all really just the intros and the first cocktail party.
Plus, I actually only watched 20 minutes of it as a certain little guy was having a tough night's sleep so I spent the time hanging with him instead. Priorities won out.
So, starting off with the 2nd episode and the first week of dates.
Group Date
JoJo coming in to wield and spray a water hose. Yeaaah, no innuendo there. None.
Hmm, a firefighting contest, you say? Not too surprising at all that the firefighter, Grant, won. That was a really good kiss, though.
Wells was freaking adorable. Poor guy. And when he was talking to JoJo during the night portion of the group date and grinned. Oh my gosh, I swooned. Great, great smile. Plus, he has a dog named Carl. I love it! Seriously, he's my top favorite.
Luke. What can I say. So, so hot. JoJo's into him. She kept touching him while they were talking and stroking his hair and just constantly in contact with him. Girl is interested and why shouldn't she be? That kiss out on the balcony? Smoking.
Derek's One-on-One Date
The choices were cute, but what would have happened if they didn't say the same choice? I assume JoJo's choice would have fun. I did laugh when the options were "North" and "South" in the plane and they both chose North because going South would mean they would have flown into the ground. Ay yi yi. That's not what that means. LOL They would have gone in the direction of South from where they were. Nutters.
Derek seemed really normal and totally cute. He became even cuter when I saw those arm muscles stretch in that henley/baseball T he was wearing. Yum... And aww, poor guy was cheated on. I'm sure plenty of girls will be more than willing to console him if JoJo doesn't choose him.
NOTE: I have no idea who wins this season. Yes, I've read the spoilers in the past, but trying a new tactic this year.
ESPN Date
Holy shit. It's like the mothership calling the boys home. JoJo grew up watching ESPN? Doubtful! (Edited to add that the Internet proved me wrong, folks. Guess she is a fan.)
Those victory dances were pretty funny. I'm not sure what Nick was doing when he said he was adjusting the shower knobs, but it totally looked like he was playing "Tune in Tokyo" to me. Cracked up when he was doing that.
Chad calling JoJo "naggy". No, hon, just no. That doesn't fly. It's like insulting a girl as a pick-up line. Doesn't work and if any of the girls reading this ever fall for this shit, please take a look at your self-confidence level. Not okay. Although I do have to give Chad props (very begrudgingly since he screams "frat boy douche" to me) for saying it's bullshit that the guys are all saying they're in love with JoJo on basically their first date. That is true. Far too early, kids.
For the night-time portion of the ESPN date...
James Taylor. Oh, honey, I can't tell if those were potential song lyrics or a poem or what, but I think "Hardcore man stuff" was not exactly the phrase he was looking for. Seriously. ;) He did win me over with that sweet kiss, though. Boys, some advice here. When you're going in for a kiss, mimic James T's move of rubbing your thumb against her cheek/chin. It's a winner.
Rose Ceremony and Pre-Ceremony Cocktail Party
Nice steal before the party, Chad. Dammit, way to make me feel bad for ya by revealing you lost your mom 6 months ago. Crap. I felt kind of bad for calling the guy a douche, but then his antics during the party, especially threatening Alex and putting his hand in his face brought back the douche factor. Not a fan. Yes, good choice to actually EAT during the cocktail party rather than drink his brains out, but yeesh.
Wells wears pink socks!! Continuing the love.
Alex, you can't really get mad at Chad for cutting in on your talk, since that was absolutely producer-driven. Plus, have you ever seen this show? This happens every season.
The Men Overall
Chase reminds me of the "I'm a grown ass man" Chris Bukowski from Emily's season. Heck, so many of these men are interchangeable. Chase, Jordan and Chad all look the same. And whoever that guy is that was the last one to leave after the roses were given -- I thought that was James Taylor and was shocked he didn't get a rose. But then I saw James T standing there still and remembered he already had a rose.
My current faves:
Plus, I actually only watched 20 minutes of it as a certain little guy was having a tough night's sleep so I spent the time hanging with him instead. Priorities won out.
So, starting off with the 2nd episode and the first week of dates.
Group Date
JoJo coming in to wield and spray a water hose. Yeaaah, no innuendo there. None.
Hmm, a firefighting contest, you say? Not too surprising at all that the firefighter, Grant, won. That was a really good kiss, though.
Wells was freaking adorable. Poor guy. And when he was talking to JoJo during the night portion of the group date and grinned. Oh my gosh, I swooned. Great, great smile. Plus, he has a dog named Carl. I love it! Seriously, he's my top favorite.
Luke. What can I say. So, so hot. JoJo's into him. She kept touching him while they were talking and stroking his hair and just constantly in contact with him. Girl is interested and why shouldn't she be? That kiss out on the balcony? Smoking.
Derek's One-on-One Date
The choices were cute, but what would have happened if they didn't say the same choice? I assume JoJo's choice would have fun. I did laugh when the options were "North" and "South" in the plane and they both chose North because going South would mean they would have flown into the ground. Ay yi yi. That's not what that means. LOL They would have gone in the direction of South from where they were. Nutters.
Derek seemed really normal and totally cute. He became even cuter when I saw those arm muscles stretch in that henley/baseball T he was wearing. Yum... And aww, poor guy was cheated on. I'm sure plenty of girls will be more than willing to console him if JoJo doesn't choose him.
NOTE: I have no idea who wins this season. Yes, I've read the spoilers in the past, but trying a new tactic this year.
ESPN Date
Holy shit. It's like the mothership calling the boys home. JoJo grew up watching ESPN? Doubtful! (Edited to add that the Internet proved me wrong, folks. Guess she is a fan.)
Those victory dances were pretty funny. I'm not sure what Nick was doing when he said he was adjusting the shower knobs, but it totally looked like he was playing "Tune in Tokyo" to me. Cracked up when he was doing that.
Chad calling JoJo "naggy". No, hon, just no. That doesn't fly. It's like insulting a girl as a pick-up line. Doesn't work and if any of the girls reading this ever fall for this shit, please take a look at your self-confidence level. Not okay. Although I do have to give Chad props (very begrudgingly since he screams "frat boy douche" to me) for saying it's bullshit that the guys are all saying they're in love with JoJo on basically their first date. That is true. Far too early, kids.
For the night-time portion of the ESPN date...
James Taylor. Oh, honey, I can't tell if those were potential song lyrics or a poem or what, but I think "Hardcore man stuff" was not exactly the phrase he was looking for. Seriously. ;) He did win me over with that sweet kiss, though. Boys, some advice here. When you're going in for a kiss, mimic James T's move of rubbing your thumb against her cheek/chin. It's a winner.
Rose Ceremony and Pre-Ceremony Cocktail Party
Nice steal before the party, Chad. Dammit, way to make me feel bad for ya by revealing you lost your mom 6 months ago. Crap. I felt kind of bad for calling the guy a douche, but then his antics during the party, especially threatening Alex and putting his hand in his face brought back the douche factor. Not a fan. Yes, good choice to actually EAT during the cocktail party rather than drink his brains out, but yeesh.
Wells wears pink socks!! Continuing the love.
Alex, you can't really get mad at Chad for cutting in on your talk, since that was absolutely producer-driven. Plus, have you ever seen this show? This happens every season.
The Men Overall
Chase reminds me of the "I'm a grown ass man" Chris Bukowski from Emily's season. Heck, so many of these men are interchangeable. Chase, Jordan and Chad all look the same. And whoever that guy is that was the last one to leave after the roses were given -- I thought that was James Taylor and was shocked he didn't get a rose. But then I saw James T standing there still and remembered he already had a rose.
My current faves:
- Wells
- Derek
- Luke
Monday, May 23, 2016
Freebie List 2016
Close to midway through 2016 and I haven't yet issued this year's celebrity "freebie" list? How dare I? And yup, a few people on the list have indeed changed. Let's see who's still there and who's been added to the list -- and kisses to anyone I've taken off the list. Nothing personal, boys.
1. Alexander Skarsgard -- Okay, so yeah, he still remains number one. Sorry, boys. It's going to take someone damn impressive to knock off Mr. Skarsgard from top billing. Come on... The height. Those arms. That ass. Those abs (image from the upcoming movie, "Tarzan", which yup, I'll be going to see. How could I not??). The ability to look like a Norse god while sitting out in the snow buck naked, and the confidence to know he's damn fine and to go full-frontal (and yes, that link still works) on screen while doing so. Oh, yes, he gets the first spot. He just has it all and he's a blonde, which I still don't get because for most of my life, blondes were a no-go for me until that changed. But bring 'em on!
2. Chris Hemsworth -- He was the other reason I rethought my mantra of "just say no to blondes". Funny how dreams work. One day, a guy celeb isn't even a blip on one's radar and then one night there's a dream (oof, what a dream) and suddenly you're looking at him very, very differently. And thanks to a friend, I apparently need to see the movie "Rush" starring Chris Hemsworth in a number of sex scenes. Thanks to YouTube, I've seen the shower scene and the airplane scene, but the full movie is definitely on the to be watched list.
3. David Boreanaz -- He makes a welcome return to the list. He caught my eye when he played Angel on "Buffy the Vampire Slayer", and has grown up quite, quite nicely to be on "Bones". Again, tall. Shocker. Okay, not shocking at all knowing me. Hot, great abs and has that mischievous almost cocky gleam in his eye. Yeah, he can stick around the list again for a little while.
4. Ryan Reynolds -- Deadpool Shirtless. 'Nuf said. Although he first caught my eye in one of the "Blade" trilogy movies when he was shirtless.
5. Joel Kinnaman -- First learned of him when I saw "The Killing" (hell of a good show, but a very annoying as all get-out cliffhanger for the first season. Watch it knowing you'll have to wait til the 2nd season for answers) and fell in celeb lust. He's also starring in the upcoming "Suicide Squad", which will also be a must-see.
Okay, who's on your list?
3. David Boreanaz -- He makes a welcome return to the list. He caught my eye when he played Angel on "Buffy the Vampire Slayer", and has grown up quite, quite nicely to be on "Bones". Again, tall. Shocker. Okay, not shocking at all knowing me. Hot, great abs and has that mischievous almost cocky gleam in his eye. Yeah, he can stick around the list again for a little while.
4. Ryan Reynolds -- Deadpool Shirtless. 'Nuf said. Although he first caught my eye in one of the "Blade" trilogy movies when he was shirtless.
5. Joel Kinnaman -- First learned of him when I saw "The Killing" (hell of a good show, but a very annoying as all get-out cliffhanger for the first season. Watch it knowing you'll have to wait til the 2nd season for answers) and fell in celeb lust. He's also starring in the upcoming "Suicide Squad", which will also be a must-see.
Okay, who's on your list?
Friday, May 13, 2016
The Bachelorette's Boys Revealed
I've been kind of waiting for this day, ever since word leaked that Jo Jo's season of The Bachelorette had the hottest guys ever. The pics of the lads (I so want to call them Jo Jo's harem, but pretty sure that only relates to women, no?) have been revealed and the verdict is...
Honestly? I'm kind of disappointed. <insert Price is Right loser music here>
Maybe it was over-sell by people claiming that the guys were the hottest yet, but I'm not feeling it. Just two or three of the guys made me interested enough by their pic to click to find out more about them. The rest just got a solid "meh" from me.
And I'm putting this out there now because I'm sure when the show starts and the guys are all shirtless basically 24/7, I'm going to change my tune and be all "Whooaaaa, baby" and "brown chicken brown cow". (Also, if you don't know that song, click on the link now and take a listen. Love it. And love Trace Adkins, who is my own personal kind of taller than tall hot.) Or I'll get to "know" them by hearing them talk and hearing their stories/seeing how they are with Jo Jo and they'll become more attractive that way. That definitely happens and I'm sure it will this time, too. There's a Doctor Who quote about that when Amy is discussing her to-be husband, Rory...
“You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them, and five minutes later they're dull as a brick. But then there's other people, and you meet them and you think 'not bad, they're okay', and then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it, and they just they turn into something so beautiful...”
So much that. Love when that happens. I'm sure there are quite a few of the guys in the cast that I'm just passing by at first glance and will think are tremendously hot because of who they are (and possibly on account of their abs, too. Yes, I'm shallow. This isn't news.) by the end of the season.
The three guys that stuck out to me the most just from the pics alone are Chase, Luke and Wells.
* Chase - Hot. Just hot. Yowza. And I clicked on his info and "Chronicles of Narnia" is one of his favorite movies. Shut up. Just shut up. Aslan and Mister Tumnus and "Turkish Delight" (It's a candy) and of course, the armoire. I'm still always disappointed when the back of my armoire doesn't lead to Narnia. That needs to happen some day.
* Luke - Okay, my first thought when seeing him was that he's hot but looks like he knows it and is a douche. I clicked on his info fully expecting to see that he was a model or actor. Instead, I see that he's a war veteran. Okay, so I am not the walrus. I'm the douche. Ugh. I guess he could still be a jackass, but he's a vet, so I'm hoping like hell that is not the case.
* Wells - He looks like someone I would have fallen for back in high school, right down to the pins on the jacket. What is up with the pins on the jacket?? But, he's cute in an adorable kind of way.
Haven't read any spoilers about this season, although we all know they're out there and I typically do read up so I know ahead of time. And heck I probably will wind up reading Reality Steve again because I'm addicted to being in the know. But, as of this writing, I don't know squat. Heck, for all I know, all three of these guys were eliminated on the first night, although I hope not!
Honestly? I'm kind of disappointed. <insert Price is Right loser music here>
Maybe it was over-sell by people claiming that the guys were the hottest yet, but I'm not feeling it. Just two or three of the guys made me interested enough by their pic to click to find out more about them. The rest just got a solid "meh" from me.
And I'm putting this out there now because I'm sure when the show starts and the guys are all shirtless basically 24/7, I'm going to change my tune and be all "Whooaaaa, baby" and "brown chicken brown cow". (Also, if you don't know that song, click on the link now and take a listen. Love it. And love Trace Adkins, who is my own personal kind of taller than tall hot.) Or I'll get to "know" them by hearing them talk and hearing their stories/seeing how they are with Jo Jo and they'll become more attractive that way. That definitely happens and I'm sure it will this time, too. There's a Doctor Who quote about that when Amy is discussing her to-be husband, Rory...
“You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them, and five minutes later they're dull as a brick. But then there's other people, and you meet them and you think 'not bad, they're okay', and then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it, and they just they turn into something so beautiful...”
So much that. Love when that happens. I'm sure there are quite a few of the guys in the cast that I'm just passing by at first glance and will think are tremendously hot because of who they are (and possibly on account of their abs, too. Yes, I'm shallow. This isn't news.) by the end of the season.
The three guys that stuck out to me the most just from the pics alone are Chase, Luke and Wells.
* Chase - Hot. Just hot. Yowza. And I clicked on his info and "Chronicles of Narnia" is one of his favorite movies. Shut up. Just shut up. Aslan and Mister Tumnus and "Turkish Delight" (It's a candy) and of course, the armoire. I'm still always disappointed when the back of my armoire doesn't lead to Narnia. That needs to happen some day.
* Luke - Okay, my first thought when seeing him was that he's hot but looks like he knows it and is a douche. I clicked on his info fully expecting to see that he was a model or actor. Instead, I see that he's a war veteran. Okay, so I am not the walrus. I'm the douche. Ugh. I guess he could still be a jackass, but he's a vet, so I'm hoping like hell that is not the case.
* Wells - He looks like someone I would have fallen for back in high school, right down to the pins on the jacket. What is up with the pins on the jacket?? But, he's cute in an adorable kind of way.
Haven't read any spoilers about this season, although we all know they're out there and I typically do read up so I know ahead of time. And heck I probably will wind up reading Reality Steve again because I'm addicted to being in the know. But, as of this writing, I don't know squat. Heck, for all I know, all three of these guys were eliminated on the first night, although I hope not!
How a Bryan Adams' Song Brought Me Back in Time
While I was work blogging today, I had the "soft rock" station on. I know. You're all laughing. But it helps me to write having background music and the soft rock channel is the best one because I don't wind up getting up and dancing or singing along like I do when pretty much any other station is on. It's just muzak. Well, until today.
Bryan Adams' "All For Love" from the soundtrack of "The Three Musketeers" movie came on, and I suddenly remembered what that song meant to me in college. For a while, I was obsessed with that song Senior year thanks to (wait for it) a guy. Of course. But, the funny thing is, I had completely forgotten about this guy until I heard this song. For all the thinking about him back in college, and there was far too much at one point, now he means nada to me and I'm slightly embarrassed to say I can't even remember his name.
I'd look him up in the yearbook, but he didn't go to college with me. Instead, I met him through a personal ad. Again, yes, you're all laughing. I am, too. But it was Senior year and I was licking my wounds after dating a buddy hadn't worked out (nothing personal to him at all, but when I kissed him, it felt like I was kissing a relative and that was not sexy in the slightest LOL) so I had figured what the hell, let's see what happens and posted it in the Personals section of the local city paper.
Back then, the Internet didn't exist, so I had to call into a voice mail box to see if I had any messages. And to my surprise, there were quite a few. One memorable one that I think I've mentioned here before was from an artist who was convinced that he and I were fated to be together and left numerous rambling voice messages to that end. Now, looking back, I'm very proud of my then-self for not contacting that guy because that's the kind of shit that then-me would have lapped up. But I didn't.
However, I did contact the guy who was my age and went to a college that was in that nearby big city. He sounded normal, so I left him a return message or called him and we agreed to meet up. A friend and I picked him up at the local train/subway station since there wasn't a direct stop at all to our college and he and I went to go see "The Three Musketeers", so I affiliated that song with him for a while.
We must have hit it off (I do remember thinking that first kiss was definitely NOT like kissing a relative, thank heavens...) because we agreed to hang out again. He came up again and a group of us (including the buddy I had tried dating and his then-girlfriend) went out to the local pub for dinner and drinks. (Side note: Because of this, I realized this was senior year and not junior year, because I wouldn't have been out at a bar drinking junior year.) Then, we came back and were playing some "I never" drinking game up in the suite. I don't remember how this came about, but the guy admitted that he had worked as a gigolo when he was working out of town the previous summer and was seeing the wives of a bunch of politicians. Ooookay. That was a bit much for my little then-virginial self to handle. Yikes.
He did spend the night in the dorm room and no, dear readers, nothing happened other than making out. What I do remember of him the most is that he had a school meeting the next morning so he had to get up early, and because I had no car, one of my good buds was graceful enough to let me use her car to drop him back off at the train/subway station. I seem to remember that he called a few times after that, but ehh, not my cup of tea at all, so I stopped answering his calls and he stopped calling.
Now that I'm thinking of him though, I wish I could remember his name or even just his first name. Hoping that I haven't somehow run into him over the years and have no recollection of it. If so, sorry dude!
Yeesh, all of that memory from one little song.
Bryan Adams' "All For Love" from the soundtrack of "The Three Musketeers" movie came on, and I suddenly remembered what that song meant to me in college. For a while, I was obsessed with that song Senior year thanks to (wait for it) a guy. Of course. But, the funny thing is, I had completely forgotten about this guy until I heard this song. For all the thinking about him back in college, and there was far too much at one point, now he means nada to me and I'm slightly embarrassed to say I can't even remember his name.
I'd look him up in the yearbook, but he didn't go to college with me. Instead, I met him through a personal ad. Again, yes, you're all laughing. I am, too. But it was Senior year and I was licking my wounds after dating a buddy hadn't worked out (nothing personal to him at all, but when I kissed him, it felt like I was kissing a relative and that was not sexy in the slightest LOL) so I had figured what the hell, let's see what happens and posted it in the Personals section of the local city paper.
Back then, the Internet didn't exist, so I had to call into a voice mail box to see if I had any messages. And to my surprise, there were quite a few. One memorable one that I think I've mentioned here before was from an artist who was convinced that he and I were fated to be together and left numerous rambling voice messages to that end. Now, looking back, I'm very proud of my then-self for not contacting that guy because that's the kind of shit that then-me would have lapped up. But I didn't.
However, I did contact the guy who was my age and went to a college that was in that nearby big city. He sounded normal, so I left him a return message or called him and we agreed to meet up. A friend and I picked him up at the local train/subway station since there wasn't a direct stop at all to our college and he and I went to go see "The Three Musketeers", so I affiliated that song with him for a while.
We must have hit it off (I do remember thinking that first kiss was definitely NOT like kissing a relative, thank heavens...) because we agreed to hang out again. He came up again and a group of us (including the buddy I had tried dating and his then-girlfriend) went out to the local pub for dinner and drinks. (Side note: Because of this, I realized this was senior year and not junior year, because I wouldn't have been out at a bar drinking junior year.) Then, we came back and were playing some "I never" drinking game up in the suite. I don't remember how this came about, but the guy admitted that he had worked as a gigolo when he was working out of town the previous summer and was seeing the wives of a bunch of politicians. Ooookay. That was a bit much for my little then-virginial self to handle. Yikes.
He did spend the night in the dorm room and no, dear readers, nothing happened other than making out. What I do remember of him the most is that he had a school meeting the next morning so he had to get up early, and because I had no car, one of my good buds was graceful enough to let me use her car to drop him back off at the train/subway station. I seem to remember that he called a few times after that, but ehh, not my cup of tea at all, so I stopped answering his calls and he stopped calling.
Now that I'm thinking of him though, I wish I could remember his name or even just his first name. Hoping that I haven't somehow run into him over the years and have no recollection of it. If so, sorry dude!
Yeesh, all of that memory from one little song.
Wednesday, May 11, 2016
Public Speaking
As part of my freelancing/owning my own consulting company, I've been attending scores of business-to-business (B2B) networking events. The first one I attended was absolutely nerve wracking as small talk has never exactly been one of my traits, nor going up to strangers and starting a conversation. OMG, this person could hate me and shun me and turn away and mock me wasn't an uncommon (albeit irrational at best) thought before leaving for that first event.
But, to my surprise, I actually found myself smiling and talking to new people with ease and having conversations with them. Seems bursting way the hell out of my shell by selling sex toys at house parties was exactly what I needed to make networking events seem like a breeze in comparison. Who knew?
This skill has also helped in interviewing with companies for freelancing gigs because I now go in with the mentality that I'm there to help the person/company instead of fretting about if they'd like me or would hate me on sight and want to flee (thank you, years of being an overly self-conscious person for that perception). What I need to know when I'm meeting with a company these days is if *I* like them and want to work for them. Yes, of course, I'm there to hawk my skills and what I can do for them but at the same time, I'm not nervous, feel confident and am observing and considering if the company is a right fit for ME. So, so important. Trust me on this. I've not listened to my gut instinct in interviews before and should have.
Today's event was interesting as I met a woman that I hadn't previously met before. She started up a local access TV show to promote successful entrepreneurs who have been in the business for 3 years or more. That doesn't apply to me yet. Key word there -- yet. But she and I got to talking and she told me how she teaches classes at a local business center and how I would be absolutely perfect to teach a class on my specialties (which I won't list here so as to stay far, far away from having this online persona connect in any way with my business life) because I'm so outgoing, bubbly and have a great speaking voice and presence.
Holy shit. Internally, I was stunned because my first thought (again, thank you to years of growing up without self-confidence) was "Me? Seriously? Are you crazy?! I have nada to teach a class and would just turn beet red and mumble and bore the shit out of everyone."
But, as we spoke further and my brain decided to shut the hell up, I thought about it and realized she was actually right. I've been hearing more and more from people I meet with at these events and at interviews about my bubbly outgoing demeanor and how easy it is to talk to me. And I know that I have information to give to people just based on what I do and heck, I have presented on the topics before in person to sales teams and others (again, keeping this kind of vague). She was actually the 3rd person recently who has broached the topic of public speaking to me but was the first one who actually mentioned a specific center that might work really well.
So, when I hear from her about the information (and yes, I've already reached out -- fortune's in the follow-up, kids...), I'll talk to them and see what's possible. It's an exciting idea and these days have been insanely odd but fun/nutty days. More to follow...
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